Role Play Costumes for Kids

I’ve been super prepared in thinking about Christmas and Birthday gifts for Aviana, and one idea I had was to increase her ‘wardrobe’ with role play type dressing up costumes.  Currently she has a doctors kit, a kitchen (where she pretends to be mummy and daddy), and a till for a cashier.  She loves pretend play and is quite imaginative, so we probably don’t actually need anymore….but I thought it could be fun to expand it.  So using amazon I typed in “dress up costumes” and saw that “girls” and “boys” were separate search strings, so intrigued I tried “girls”.

Of course what do you think came up….princesses.  Of course, I’m not that surprised.

Princesses. Super heros in pink and purple (ok not so bad). Glamour girl (what is that even?!) Firefighter (cool!  But it was a boy in the picture).  Premier Chef (pink and frilly pinafore). Princess, princess, fairy. Waitress.  Princess. A surgeon (ding ding ding!  with actually a girl in the picture). Hairstylist. Princess, princess, princess. blah blah blah.  I stopped scrolling.

So I changed the search term to be boys….this is what came up

Surgeon. Knight. Army. Firefighter. Police. Pirate. Super Hero. Construction worker. Surgeon. Mail delivery. Super Hero. Police. Super hero. Firefighter. Princess (oooooh!!!!) which came before an astronaut….King. Pilot. Racing driver.

I then genericized the search term to be ‘kids’….and I got a mix of all the above, there was one picture after much scrolling with a girl in an astronaut’s costume.  I suddenly checked myself.  What did I want for Aviana?  I wanted her to have fire fighter, police and needed some inspiration for others, but I was stuck.  The only thing I put on the wish list was fire fighter.

Am I surprised? No.  But where else can I look for non-gender stereotyped costumes?

I googled, but didn’t get much.  I already follow Princess Awesome and Boy wonder for clothes that break gender stereotyping.  And I found an interesting page that lists some more companies at #clotheswithoutlimits (https://www.clotheswithoutlimits.com/) but I couldn’t find anything specific to dress up to inspire me.  Do you know a company that doesn’t gender stereotype dress-up costumes? I know Aviana can wear any costume, but wouldn’t it be nice to have something a little more balanced?

When people call your daughter a boy

Ever since Aviana was born we’ve always had comments like ‘oh what a cute boy’. And honestly, I don’t blame them, she does kind of have boyish looks – mostly because of her hair, or lack of hair I should say. I tend not to care, it’s the other person who gets embarrassed when they realise their mistake and apologize profusely.

Last weekend in Aviana’s weekly gym class we introduced ourselves to each other as usual, including our children. As we were playing later on one dad spoke to Aviana when she was trying to climb a step… ‘that’s it little buddy, you can do it!’ I ignored it and just laughed along. But His wife was horrified at his mistake and tried to tell him subtly that Aviana was actually a girl. He sort of looked at his wife to question her and to say really??! I said to him it’s OK, it’s the lack of hair you can’t tell. She was dressed in purple and earlier I had introduced my daughter Aviana, to the group…but never mind, I let it wash over me.

Later that day we headed out to Christmas town at Busch Gardens, we bundled Aviana up in a snow suit we had been given from some friends that was blue and orange, with a pink bobble hat. You couldn’t see that she didn’t have much hair, but still people called her a boy!!!

Admittedly we don’t have lots of overly girly clothes, and right now as she is crawling and learning to walk dresses are totally inappropriate. She has got a few pink and floral print items, but that doesn’t always seem to stop the boy comments oddly enough.

Honestly, if I am not 100% certain of the gender of a baby I have just met I don’t say either way and keep it neutral until I am certain! Even though I don’t get offended, at some point Aviana will understand and it may offend her, I’m just not sure when that is likely to be! Hopefully by then her hair will be long enough to keep the commenters away!