Last Wednesday evening Aviana decided that she didn’t want to go to sleep and rather fuss, and this trend then continued through the day and night Thursday, Friday and today. What I mean by this is that she no longer wants to lie down in her crib, she wants to be held. When we finally do get her down she will eventually wake up screaming the house down because she either wants to poo, fart and more often than not, shart.
It was taking us a couple of hours of soothing her in anyway possible before she would consider to stop crying. Of course, the more tired she gets, the harder it is to get her to stop crying. There is no one way to stop the tears, but generally requires her falling asleep upright in our arms. I have also been spending all day carrying her and trying different ways to console the tears (thankfully I discovered the wrap works sometimes to help get her to sleep which saves my back).
The cries aren’t continuous, but rather they would stop after a minute or two, then she would fuss again, I’d get her into another position, calm down, then she’d fuss and so on. Each day she will have an hour or two of good sleep because she has exhausted herself from crying.
Yesterday Chris called me from his work to say that someone he spoke to recognised this as potentially being a sign of silent reflux. All of Aviana’s symptoms match. She has been doing other things over the past few weeks that individually didn’t concern us, but when they add up together they could be silent reflux. We don’t have a diagnosis yet, we need to see our pediatrician next week about it before we are sure.
She is in pain when she poos/farts, arching her back, screwing up her face crying and then stops crying once it has been released. Sometimes she will stiffen her whole body out straight as if she is a flying superwoman. More often when she is breast feeding she will cry and cling onto my nipple and pull her head away fighting my boob – it’s very difficult to explain to a newborn not to do that, it happens so quickly that it is difficult to unlatch her in time – and it bloody hurts, she actually has a very strong neck for a newborn. She rarely spits up, and is difficult to burp. She gets incessant hiccups, it happens roughly 3 in every 4 feeds, and they are exhausting for her so she gets frustrated at them and cries more. Sometimes a pacifer gets rid of them, or even getting her to drink a bit of breastmilk can help. She has a slight wheeze and congestion that is noticeable when she sleeps. At first we thought it was just newborn-ness and was endearing, we even nicknamed her little goose because she sounds like she is honking like a goose.
Even right now as she sleeps in her bassinet that we have tilted upright I’m listening to her cough, splutter and cry for a few seconds, then she goes back to sleep instantly. It’s upsetting to hear her like this.
She was such a happy easy going baby until now. Today we went to a baby massage class (despite us only getting about two and half hours of broken sleep last night) and lets just say it was very noticeable how cranky and upset she was compared to the other newborn babies.
So until we get some answers from the pediatrician we are keeping her upright after her feeds which is helping a bit, letting her sleep upright as much as possible so she does get some sleep and not get too overtired which then perpetuates the problem. I am also going to arrange a after we see the pediatrician a consult with an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant) to have my latch checked and get advice on what we can do to help her when it comes to breastfeeding. We also have the name of a specialist doctor in the local area referred to us by a friend just in case we don’t get answers from our ped.
Whatever is going on with our baby girl she really isn’t comfortable right now and it is tough watching her feel like that, and tough on us, especially as Chris has gone back to work. Fortunately, we have a post partum doula to help us out a bit more next week. We may need her for more help than we originally thought, but we shall see!