Things you never ask a lady

Things one never asks a lady…

1. How old are you?

2. How much do you weigh?

3. Are you pregnant??

I am super sensitive to question number 3 for a couple of reasons. 1. Infertility, 2. When I was pregnant my baby was growth restricted, 3. Baby loss.

Whatever the reason. It’s never any of your business, whether you are a stranger or a friend. And if you are my best friend I’d have told you already if I was pregnant! So basically, no. You don’t ask a lady that question. EVER.

So you can imagine the horror when someone asked my friend who was not drinking alcohol shrieks “oh are you pregnant???!!” In an excited voice. Everyone looking down at her tummy, she replied “ummmm, no!!” Not knowing quite what to say. The other person pretending to joke about it saying, well if you’re not drinking alcohol then the only other explanation is pregnancy….


I don’t think you have to be infertile to realize that this is a rude question to ask…or do you?? I don’t know!!! It baffles me even today!!

7 thoughts on “Things you never ask a lady

    • Dani says:

      Haha…yes I can imagine! I watched an amazing documentary about Indian culture and marriage which gave an insight into reproductive expectations! The pressure is insane!!

      I’m an ‘aunty’ and I promise to never ask about her uterus, so I guess I’ll have to try be a better Aunty in other ways!!! 😝 (Dee if you’re reading you heard it here, my pledge as Aunty Dani 😂 )


  1. Amy M. says:

    Stupid. People are so rude and inconsiderate! So the only reason someone isn’t drinking is if they’re pregnant??? I don’t drink, ever, and people always question me or try to push me to drink. What I consume is nobody else’s business but my own, and to try to push something on me that I clearly said I don’t want is just rude and wrong.
    Years ago when I worked as a cashier at Walmart, and was standing at the end of my register waiting for a customer, my coworker came to stand next to me, looked at me, and asked if I was pregnant very loudly. I looked at her straight in the eye and said “No, I’m just fat.” True statement, and she felt horrible. If you feel the need to ask someone something like that, at least do it quietly so you don’t make a fool of yourself, and make a huge uncomfortable scene for them!

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    • Dani says:

      I find it’s not so bad here in the US with pressure to drink at social events – it’s terrible in the UK. I also find it’s becoming more acceptable to not drink or may be I’m just getting older along with my friends!!
      Wow that is awful hope your ex colleague learned a lesson 😡

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      • Amy M. says:

        That’s what I’ve heard from reading other blogs. I personally don’t think anyone should be pressured to drink anywhere. Why can’t people just accept that someone doesn’t want to do something? So frustrating!


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